When you feel like you’re where you started, I assure you, you’re not. When a situation reappears, you can’t possibly be starting over because you’ve already been through it. You’ve grown, learned lessons and become wiser in the situation.
Don’t be fooled though. Just because you think you’ve worked through the situation enough, doesn’t mean it will never come back again.
Think of your situation like an endless spiral staircase. With each step, you get higher and higher. You will face the same direction many times on your way up, but each time you will be higher, you’ll be at another level.
When the same situation comes back to you, you’ve changed levels. This time around you know what happened last time, you know the previous outcome, the tools that helped you most, the things that hindered your progress, you know what avoidance looks like and what it feels like to near a solution. Time has taught you that you will make it through, that you are strong, that you are supported, that you are loved, even if it doesn’t feel like it in the moment.
You’re never starting from scratch because you’re always one level higher.